You will not heal by going back to what broke you.
(Unknown)
When you’re feeling broken, you tend to retreat to the familiar; the people, places and routines that define you. But that’s not necessarily the best thing for you.
Your world has collapsed, you’re hurting and can’t figure out how to get out of the mess you’re in. You feel like you don’t matter. That’s not true! Don’t give in to these toxic emotions.
Your life is not defined by the people who hurt you, or by the harmful situations you find yourself in.
Get out of these negative patterns of behavior. Take the first step by acknowledging that the things that are happening to you are not good for you. Then reflect and try to figure out why does it keep happening to you; Whether it’s a slip up at work or being treated as a doormat or having relationships with jerks.
Then ask yourself what are you believing that is causing you to have to face these situations? Don’t run away from these issues and relationships. Confront them head on so that you can discover if you are harboring a wrong belief about yourself that is causing you to face these situations repeatedly, like a broken record.
Then, take courage. Determine to correct the wrong beliefs that are causing you to “attract” the undesirables in your relationships.
Be brave, move forward and remind yourself that you can be in a better place than where you are right now. Don’t give up on yourself!
Remind yourself, there is a bigger world out there that may not be as scary as you think it is. Give yourself time to heal. Seek help but don’t make another person your crutch. That is not healing. That is substitution!
To truly heal, just let go of what or who has been wounding you.
Take care of yourself. You deserve better. You have an identity that you’ve yet to discover. So don’t give up on yourself. Find it… find You.
May this song, Mended by Matthew West comfort you.
Artist: Jackie S. Text: Anna G
The Folly of Clinging
The little boy walked slowly into the room where his mother was sitting at her desk writing. She glanced down at him and saw that he was carrying a very precious vase that her grandmother had given her.
Almost absentmindedly she said to him, “Robert, go put the case down before you drop it and break it.”
“I can’t,” he replied, “I can’t get my hand out.”
“Of course you can,” she said,”you got it down there.”
He said,”I know, mom, but it won’t come out.”
The neck of the vase was very narrow and his hand had fit neatly inside it, up to his wrist. He continued to insist that he could not get it out. Growing a little concerned, his mother called out to his dad.
Dad calmly took control of the situation, and began gently pulling the arm, trying to extract the hand from the vase. He tried loosening it up with soapy water. Still nothing. Then he got some vegetable oil from the kitchen and poured it around the wrist, letting it seep into the vase. He wiggled it a little, but it still did not budge.
“I give up.,” the dad said in desperation. “I’ll give a dollar right now to know how to get it out.”
“Really?” little Robert exclaimed.
Then they heard a clinking sound and his hand slide right out of the vase. They turned the vase upside down and a penny plopped out.
“What’s this?” they said in unison.
“Oh, that’s the penny I put inside. I wanted to get it out so I was clutching it in my hand. But when I heard Dad say he would give a dollar, I let go.
Indeed, how often do we cling to things when they are nothing in comparison to what could be ours?
